Who do you love?

Why do you love the people you do? Come up with a list if you like.
What are the reasons you love one person more than another.

Here are some possibilities...
--physical relatedness
--similar values
--attractiveness
--long association

Add your own, but take a close look. You will find that there are some
people you love who don't have some of these, or have less of these than
others who you don't love. For example, you may have a brother
(physical relatedness) who does not share your values that you
nevertheless love with all your heart, and another sibling or parent
with similar values that you don't care for as much. Many people adopt
babies who have none of the qualities we would consider love-worthy, yet
they love them nonetheless.

What this tells me is that we love who we choose to love, and usually
don't spend time justifying the emotion. If love is a choice, often
arbitrary and capricious, then is anyone really more worthy of love than
anyone else? If so, how do you know? Is this true in your own life?

If there is a God who created us all then wouldn't God's choice of who
to love be a better criteria than any we could come up with? Then we
should love others equally, without reservation. All men are my
brothers.

Yes, but spend those most time on those within our sphere of influence;
those whom we have the greatest ability to affect. God has also given
us a responsibility to spend more time and effort on some rather than
others; spouses, children, parents, etc.